I've recently heard some statistics that say most women put their children before their partner and married women who have children are happiest, while married men with children are least happy. Could it be that women are too focused on children and are ignoring their mate? Are these group of men least happy because the children are getting all the attention?
Let's look at the life of the average American mom as she lives today. A lot of moms are in the workforce, so they wake up, get the kids ready, see them off to school or drop them off at daycare, go to work, pick kids up, run them around to extra-curricular activities, maybe go to the gym, go home and cook/clean, and then go to bed. Dad kind of just gets crammed in wherever there is time. I can see why there is such a strain on the average relationship.
The question is how to lessen the strain. Sharing responsibilities is huge. If hubby wants to spend more time together, he will understand that he has to help out where he can. We also have to limit activities; it's great to be involved and also have the kids involved, but there has to be family time and there has to be time put aside for your significant other. If you feel like you can't really give anything up yet, then schedule time in. Put it on the calendar. Every Tuesday is family night. Make a date night twice a month or once a week. As silly as it sounds, it's even sillier to forget about each other and let the fire slip away.
Listen to each other. You can learn a lot about what the other is feeling by shutting your mouth and listening to theirs. Sometimes we're too busy to actually hear how the other is feeling. If hubby is unhappy, you can usually tell by what he's saying - even if what he's saying isn't, "I'm unhappy". And if he has a busy schedule like you, he probably has things to get off his chest. Ask him how his day was. Send a text at lunch wishing him a great day. Even better, meet up for lunch when you can! These are easy things that sometimes slip by us. You don't have to join a key party to keep each other happy. Usually it's the little things that make the difference. Compliments aren't just for us, ladies. Let him know he looks foxy in those new blue jeans. Above all else, remember to tell him you love him.
Do you have great ideas for keeping dad happy? Leave a comment!
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